You Are Missing Out

Read the title again. I’ll give you another second… Done? Well let that sink in because it is so important. You are now wondering what I’m talking about and I’ll tell you in a minute.

To start off, thank you for reading my blogs you guys! It means a lot that you actually take 10 minutes out of your time to read what I have to say. So thank you, again.

This topic is simply about how us -young people- are missing out in life with the littlest things. For example, your mobile phone.

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This might sound like it’s your dad talking to you right now…Well, hey son! For real. There are over 7,380,388,740 people living on earth at this very second, (and I know that because I searched it up right now, just in case you wanted to come at me asking if I think I’m Einstein or something). If that isn’t crazy, I don’t know what is. Think about it. We limit ourselves to explore life, just looking at a 5” screen and forget there is soooooo much more to life, soooooo many people to get to know, soooooo many opportunities that could get us rich, soooooo many cultures, places, art, nature, animals…moments. Actually, let me make a list of the things you’re missing out on real quick:

  1. What silence actually sounds like. Forget about your Twitter notifications, how many people are following you, what people have commented on your Instagram photo, or who is texting you on Whatsapp for a minute. Stop and listen. Listen to the sounds of your natural environment. You will feel better. Birds chirping and buzzing, maybe car engines and sounds of the city you live in. All can sometimes be very blissful.
  2. Just how good that morning coffee really tastes. You will be  very surprised. Simply at how much more your taste buds react to that first sip of Starbucks coffee in the morning as you head off to school/college/uni/work when you are fully focused on the taste rather than checking your notifications simultaneously.
  3. Your thoughts, in the present moment. When you stop answering unnecessary phone calls, texts, DM’s or how many likes your latest Instagram picture got, you’ll find yourself in your own thoughts. Take this time to let your thoughts burst and pay attention to the activity of your own mind, without judging or controlling. Practising a little mindfulness (phone-free) will help you keep calm, centered and connected to yourself.
  4. A glance and smile from a cute stranger. Just you, walking out of your crib and walking towards the nearest bus stop, there are countless opportunities to meet new people, but if you are looking down at your phone, you won’t even notice. Look up, notice and take advantage of these. You never know who might make your day and just make you feel happy for the rest of the day.
  5. The punchline of a joke. We all know that jokes are not as funny the second time around. If you are hanging out with your friends, pay attention to them instead of staring at your phone to look at nonsense. Your friend just dropped a punchline, everyone is laughing, you are not. You ask what it was and no one really wants to repeat it for you.
  6. The company of your loved ones. Even if you’re on holiday, spending a sunny Sunday afternoon or just watching TV together, leave your phone out of the picture. You will never get that moment back. It might be similar, but never the same. Even if you’re not in a deep conversation, showing that you’re available and approachable is more likely to create more memorable moments than when you’re just zoning out with your phone and with headphones on.
  7. Someone telling you that they care. Being caught on your phone while someone is speaking to you. Guilty. Next time, consider the importance of what they might be telling you, how much you actually want to hear it, or how much they might want to be heard. The ‘read’ message on Whatsapp can wait.

If any doubt remains in your mind that we are, in fact, a society addicted to our smartphones, stop what you’re doing and simply take a look around. Including myself. There’s a pretty good chance that the majority of the people around you staring down at their palms, scrolling Twitter feeds or engrossed in texting conversations… And when you think of the last time you were in the same position, it may be just a few seconds ago.

We care so much about what our social media image looks like, but we forget to look at the state the real life. Meet people, look at how their lips move when they talk, how their eyes water in excitement or in sadness, give love and receive. We only live like two days, you know?

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Kew Gardens Photography

Hi guys! I am back with some good stuff! Before I start, I’d like to point out that I do study Photography as an A-Level and I’d like to share with you guys my current project based on “natural forms”. And I know for some of you this place might sound like a boring church  but it is pretty much heaven in my eyes. Literally. It’s like walking into God’d bedroom. So I won’t take any more time from you, and I’ll let you see it for yourself. Less talkig from me that is, lol.

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Requested topic: Relationships

Well, I’m back! And this time I will change topics a little since it was requested. Before I start, I do appreciate people actually reading my stuff lol, and requesting topics on ask.fm which is kinda nice, so thank you.

The girl/guy who requested this topic asked me to speak about my personal experiences in relationships…I don’t know why you would come to me to be honest, but let’s crack on.

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To start off, I really want to get to the point. To do that, I would like to divide this topic in three different parts. These parts represent the 3 different stages I’ve gone through in my ‘love life’ as we say. I’ll call these stages by the names of the 3 boys I had ‘a thing’ with, but I’ll just pick a random name so I don’t get in trouble afterwards. Before I start, I just want to point out that I don’t like sharing my personal life in public, on social media, but I really want to get my point across by doing so. Oh, and, if you were born in the 90’s, I think you should grab a cup of tea and keep on reading because this may apply to y’all’s experiences too. And if not, maybe my life is just messed up.

Stage 1: let’s call him…’Josh’

‘Josh’ and I started dating a couple of years ago. I was 15 years old and he was 18. I was a young girl that didn’t know anything about anything, but I just wanted a boyfriend, right? Beacuse everyone was in a relationship and I just wanted to see what it was like to talk to someone for hours on the phone, to hear someone say ‘I love you’ a thousand times a day, to kiss someone because I could…so I did. ‘Josh’ was a brilliant human being, honestly. He was an amazing person and I bet he still is. He was an 18 year old boy that had been single for quite a while, and for some reason, he thought that was something to be ashamed of, but I’ll get into that a bit later. I was 15 years old. Now, can I ask rethorically, WHAT DID I KNOW ABOUT LOVE? Sometimes when our parents tell us that we’re too young for something, we like to think that they’re still kinda ‘living’ in their time and that they’re old school, but honestly, most of the times they are right. So let me carry on with this. Josh was amazing, no doubt. But he wanted something real and I was not giving it to him because I was a kid. A kid that wanted that relationship to be like in the movies: deep love, fights, make ups, no giving up…etc, just a whole bunch of dramatic stuff that I wanted to see. So I played around. I wanted him to CRY over me when we fought, I wanted him to be EXTREMELY JEALOUS, I wanted him to treat me like A QUEEN, without me giving that back. I can’t believe he actually put up with me for a year. I wanted to fight all the time, because that way I felt more loved, and I wanted to see reactions. So every single time I got the chance, I would bring up something to fight about and he would just apologise over nothing. I kept on doing that for a whole year lol. And the last time, he got tired. He got tired and I didn’t realise what I had done. I didn’t realise that it wasn’t a movie. I didn’t realise that, that person I was with had a heart and that he was wasting his time with me. Because I cared so much about looks, even though I wasn’t a ‘buffting’ and I wanted my boyfriend to look like Chris Brown and he was the opposite. A 15 year old that didn’t know what she wanted. But what she actually wanted had just left.

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Stage 2: let’s call him…’Trevor’ (I just like that name)

‘Trevor’ and I started talking on Whatsapp a few months after ‘Josh’ left. He was the Chris Brown type I really wanted. Fair skin, tall, beautiful smile, and a bunch of girls kissing his ass. But I started to realise as time passed that he just didn’t treat me like ‘Josh’ did. He didn’t treat me like the queen ‘Josh’ wanted me to believe I was. And soon after that, I started to wonder why he was there in the first place. Look. Girls, if you’re reading this, I hope you understand that looks are not everything. And I know we hear that every day and every where, but it is an actual fact. A guy can look like Bryson Tiller in the outside but he might be the ugliest person in the inside and you will be blinded with his looks and accept the way he treats you because you ‘look good together’ or because he’s too good looking to let go.

Wait for the person that makes your soul melt without looking at their face. Let your heart love with no eyes.

Stage 3: let’s call him…’Dante’ (I wanna call my child like this lol)

Dante was…perfect. In my eyes. This person came into my life without even knocking; he just kind of appeared. We started talking as normal friends without even giving hints of ‘something else’,  but it did end up being something else…Which was not really a thing in the end but…let me not rush, lol. Dante and I had this extraordinary connection…or at least I thought we did we just talked about anything and everything, and soon I just could not go a day without speaking to this guy. He became someone that I had to make sure I looked after. I became so protective over him and I just could not see myself with anyone else but him. I would get DM’s, Instagram messages and all, but I just couldn’t see them, lol. He was doing something to me that I never experienced before…Then I started to tell him that I love him, he would say it back. ‘I love you, I love you, I love you’. Day after day. But he would say it back. What I didn’t realise is that his ‘I love you’s where different to my ‘I love you’s…Guys, if you’re reading this, never sell a girl dreams. Don’t hide your feelings from her. Tell her what you want from the beggining, because females are crazy, and once you hurt them, you can change their whole life and she will change yours if she can or has the chance to lol. But let me get on with this. Dante was ‘THE PERFECT GUY’ like the movie. But I actually fell in love with HIM. He wasn’t that Chris Brown type that I dreamed about as a younger teenager, but he was perfect in my eyes. The thing is that, with him, I became so transparent. I told him everthing I felt at every single moment and I think I should not have done that. Girls, giving your whole self to someone who is not willing to do the same for you is the biggest waste of time; you’ll end up empty and with no love inside because you gave it all to that person. Dante, knowing what I felt for him, used me for his own benefit. And I blame myself too for letting him do that. Dante was a person I deeply cared about and would do anything for, but what I thought there was, just dissapeared or just wasn’t even there. Soon after that I began to realise that some people can become really selfish because they have been hurt before and not actually care how that may affect someone else. Regardless, I forgave Dante instantly because it wasn’t his fault that he didn’t feel what I felt. And God forgives, so I forgive too. I loved him and I still do. And after that I knew he wasn’t the one for me and I wasn’t the one for him.

After Stage 3, I was heartbroken but I started thinking wisely. I let myself down. I let God down. I began to realise that the life I was living was not the life God planned for me. He didn’t want me to suffer, but I was. He didn’t want me to be distracted from things that were actually important, but I was. He didn’t want me to feel worthless, but I believed I was. And to be honest, no one deserves to feel like that.

Throughout all that time, I was distracted. I didn’t focus on the things I really needed to focus on. I was looking for someone. I was looking for someone to make me feel good about myself, and if you feel that way, it is time for you to realise that there is more to life. There is more to discover in life. I could have been working on myself all that time. I could have been improving my skills at something. I could have been spending more time with GOD, the one who created me and wants me to do well in life. And I am not saying you can’t do all that having a boyfriend or a girlfriend but there is a right time for everyone, and not because your friends are in a relationship, you should be in one too. There is ONE person on this earth that you deserve and he/she deserves you. But while God works that out for you, why not just enjoy life and work hard to build that empire? Those dreams that you have? Think about it.

Trust in God and keep walking by Him, and you will find the person that you NEED, not want.
Trust in God and keep walking by Him, and you will find the person that you NEED, not want.

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Erykah Badu 

Well, here is a drawing of Erykah Badu by me.   

   The reason I chose Erykah as my first post is because she is such an influence for so many people, including myself. So much soul and purity in her music. Almost transparent. I really admire transparency in artists because it shows the real them and allows them to put out songs, albums, that reflect nothing but themselves. 

She is an American singer-songwriter, record producer, activist, and actress. Her career began after opening a show for D’Angelo in 1994 in her hometown; Her first album, Baduizm, was released in February 1997, (the year I was born in lol), and it spawned three singles: “On & On”, “Next Lifetime” and “Otherside of the Game”. By the age of 14, Badu was free-styling for a local radio station alongside Roy Hargrove. In her youth, she had decided to change the spelling of her first name from Erica to Erykah, as she believed her original name was a “slave name.” The term ‘kah’ signifies the inner self. She adopted a surname of Badu because it is her favorite jazz scat sound; also, among the Akan people in Ghana, it is the term for the 10th-born child according to Wikipedia.

Musically her work includes elements from R&B, hip hop and jazz, which I love love love and I think old school music is now reliving in our generation. And for good artists such as Badu, they should live forever. Along with Lauryn Hill, 2Pac, Michael Jackson, Stevie Wonder…and many more geniuses.

For the drawing, I used a Staedtler no.4 pencil and a fine liner for the blacker parts. It took me about 45 minutes to do.

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Welcome to my blog!

  
Hi guys! Well the reason behind this blog is simply because I get so many questions on ask.fm and Twitter of people telling me that I should consider blogging and here I am. I’m really not trying to be someone that I am not. Realness above all. But I really think I’m capable. I believe that I can impact someone’s life by being me and just giving out myself. So if you want to be a part of my journey, I personally invite you to keep this locked and stay tuned to my next posts! 
For those of you reading this and thinking, “what on earth is she going to do?” “What is she going to post?” Well, I don’t know. And I don’t know because life is so unpredictable that I don’t know what I will feel tomorrow or the day after. So I’m going to go with the flow and really just bring out my feelings. I think that for a long time, I’ve been searching for “peace” or simply something that would get my mind off things. And I think that letting my feelings out and letting other people witness them would be a good idea and hopefully people will learn from me as I learn from life, really.

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P.s: I’m actually nervous lol.