Read the title again. I’ll give you another second… Done? Well let that sink in because it is so important. You are now wondering what I’m talking about and I’ll tell you in a minute.
To start off, thank you for reading my blogs you guys! It means a lot that you actually take 10 minutes out of your time to read what I have to say. So thank you, again.
This topic is simply about how us -young people- are missing out in life with the littlest things. For example, your mobile phone.
This might sound like it’s your dad talking to you right now…Well, hey son! For real. There are over 7,380,388,740 people living on earth at this very second, (and I know that because I searched it up right now, just in case you wanted to come at me asking if I think I’m Einstein or something). If that isn’t crazy, I don’t know what is. Think about it. We limit ourselves to explore life, just looking at a 5” screen and forget there is soooooo much more to life, soooooo many people to get to know, soooooo many opportunities that could get us rich, soooooo many cultures, places, art, nature, animals…moments. Actually, let me make a list of the things you’re missing out on real quick:
- What silence actually sounds like. Forget about your Twitter notifications, how many people are following you, what people have commented on your Instagram photo, or who is texting you on Whatsapp for a minute. Stop and listen. Listen to the sounds of your natural environment. You will feel better. Birds chirping and buzzing, maybe car engines and sounds of the city you live in. All can sometimes be very blissful.
- Just how good that morning coffee really tastes. You will be very surprised. Simply at how much more your taste buds react to that first sip of Starbucks coffee in the morning as you head off to school/college/uni/work when you are fully focused on the taste rather than checking your notifications simultaneously.
- Your thoughts, in the present moment. When you stop answering unnecessary phone calls, texts, DM’s or how many likes your latest Instagram picture got, you’ll find yourself in your own thoughts. Take this time to let your thoughts burst and pay attention to the activity of your own mind, without judging or controlling. Practising a little mindfulness (phone-free) will help you keep calm, centered and connected to yourself.
- A glance and smile from a cute stranger. Just you, walking out of your crib and walking towards the nearest bus stop, there are countless opportunities to meet new people, but if you are looking down at your phone, you won’t even notice. Look up, notice and take advantage of these. You never know who might make your day and just make you feel happy for the rest of the day.
- The punchline of a joke. We all know that jokes are not as funny the second time around. If you are hanging out with your friends, pay attention to them instead of staring at your phone to look at nonsense. Your friend just dropped a punchline, everyone is laughing, you are not. You ask what it was and no one really wants to repeat it for you.
- The company of your loved ones. Even if you’re on holiday, spending a sunny Sunday afternoon or just watching TV together, leave your phone out of the picture. You will never get that moment back. It might be similar, but never the same. Even if you’re not in a deep conversation, showing that you’re available and approachable is more likely to create more memorable moments than when you’re just zoning out with your phone and with headphones on.
- Someone telling you that they care. Being caught on your phone while someone is speaking to you. Guilty. Next time, consider the importance of what they might be telling you, how much you actually want to hear it, or how much they might want to be heard. The ‘read’ message on Whatsapp can wait.
If any doubt remains in your mind that we are, in fact, a society addicted to our smartphones, stop what you’re doing and simply take a look around. Including myself. There’s a pretty good chance that the majority of the people around you staring down at their palms, scrolling Twitter feeds or engrossed in texting conversations… And when you think of the last time you were in the same position, it may be just a few seconds ago.
We care so much about what our social media image looks like, but we forget to look at the state the real life. Meet people, look at how their lips move when they talk, how their eyes water in excitement or in sadness, give love and receive. We only live like two days, you know?
Thank you for reading.